The grass is greener where you water it.
I am walking around Providence, Rhode Island one Sunday thinking about my life and what I want for the future. I am working a travel job and I am currently in Milford, Massachusetts. The job offers me the luxury of not only traveling to new places, but actually being there long enough to fully embrace the areas.
Not only have I been able to see a new city, but I have met locals and tried the hidden gems most tourist don’t know about like mom and pop shops and restaurants. On weekends, I can travel to the nearby towns like Boston, Salem, and now Providence. I am thinking about how in the winter I want to take a month off work (yet another luxury of a travel job), and do a service program in Cambodia.
Not only will I be able to teach English, but the program also offers Buddhist immersion (something I am very interested in learning more about). It will be a good way to get my feet wet and see if I want to teach English abroad in the future. I dream of places like Thailand, Ukraine, Guyana, and Malawi.
Then, I turn a corner and see a young couple pushing a baby stroller. I stop in my tracks. I think about how nothing about my plans makes room for a significant other, let alone settling down and having kids. Is that something I want? Or rather is that something I am willing to give up in order to travel and be a nomad for the next few years?
Overall, I think the answer is yes, but I do have a problem with comparing myself to others. If I go off traveling the world and come back to all my friends being engaged, married, or expecting children I will probably feel like I missed out.
I don’t think I will look back on my life and regret not being married at 23, but I do think I will regret not pursuing my dreams to see new places not to just visit but to really immerse myself in them. That life is not for everyone, and being a nomad definitely has its disadvantages. But I’m done comparing myself to others, and doing what I think I should do based on others experiences. I hope that happy Providence couple is happy with their life. I have decided to be very happy with mine.
Then I remember that there are probably (definitely) people out there who married young, settled down, and think about what life could have been like if they waited and had more adventures. Not that you can’t travel with a significant other or kids, but doing it alone is a different experience.
A little bit of Jess.
I grew up outside of DC and my wonderlust began when I discovered I could study abroad in Australia for cheaper than a regular semester at my college
My family is from Ponce, Puerto Rico and Ponce is good and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise