How dating apps helped me become my most authentic self

                                            By M

In the process of learning who we are as people, which for me began in junior high school, sex becomes intriguing and something we want to explore. Growing up in a religious and conservative household, I was taught from a young age that sex is something that is only reserved for the one you love and plan to spend the rest of your life with. As I got older I had a harder time willing to explore as any sexual act either with yourself or others was considered sinful, dirty, and shameful. During my teenage years, I had a rough time accepting that these were normal things and that almost everyone has sexual experiences in one way or another.

For a majority of my adolescence, I was unhappy and ashamed of myself as not only was I uncomfortable even having conversations with friends about the subject let alone thinking about it, but I had to come to terms with the fact that I was gay as well. The community I was in was not very progressive and anyone that wasn’t normal was tormented. It wasn’t until my senior year that I pushed myself and began to experiment both with myself and others that I began to truly feel normal. Going to community college was a big step as the people around me changed and became more progressive and my friend group was more open to the world than ever before.

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Here was where I began to love and accept myself as I continued to push myself more and soon came out to all my friends in 2015. During this time, I had begun to indulge in random hookups which, bit by bit (pun intended), made me more comfortable with sex as well as who I am as a person. The tinder, grindr, bumble, life may not be for everyone, but for me oddly enough has made me into a more confident, happy person. Everywhere I travel to I try to go on at least one “date” and it has honestly given me more opportunities to meet great people, find out about awesome events, invited to big parties, and an awful lot of fun along the way 😉.

If there’s anything to get from my rambles, its to let go, have fun, and be your most authentic self. The way to being happy and finding yourself may not always be easy, orthodox, or make sense but it always works out in the end.


Is a New York native with a passion for big cities, dogs, and traveling the nation aiding in disaster relief. Has been coast to coast exploring Boston, New York, Atlanta, Dallas, Los Angeles and many more in search of adventure and a good cocktail.

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